It seems that many of the girls on Girl Time are incorrectly interpreting the "Who Is Online" information as an indication of the best times to get on their webcam and hang out with us. As members, we have the luxury of being able to install the notifier software to monitor the webcam girls that are currently online, even if it doesn't show girls on the broadband side, but there is no special software to tell the girls when we are around.
For everyone's benefit, lets clarify how the "Who Is Online" works.
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Member's avatars show only on the list while they are signed-in to the home page, blogs, pictures and forum pages of the COMMUNITY. The free chat room pages are NOT part of the community. After 15 minutes in a free chat room, the member's avatar will disappear, even though the member is still on Girl Time.
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If a member is not signed-in to the community, their avatar will not show. Instead they will appear as a guest.
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The number of guests online is a total of all people not signed-in to the home page, blogs, pictures or forum pages of the community only.
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People on the free chat room pages, or chatting with girls will not show as members or guests online.
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Many links to Girl Time by-pass the home page and go directly to the free chat room pages. This mean that there are guests here that don't get added to the number of guest online.
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Whenever I make administrative changes to the membership, the online counters reset to zero, even though there way be dozens of people online.
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There are ALWAYS more guests and members online than those showing on the list.
To summarize, the "Who Is Online" is more of a social toy than an accurate list of people on Girl Time. But, as imperfect as the "who is online" is, it still has its value. For those of you that have community memberships, you know how hard it was to get. We are extremely picky about who we let participate on the community to say the least. As a result, the "Who Is Online" only shows the best-of-the-best at Girl Time.
All this said, members should always sign-in to Girl Time! There's no stopping people from mis-interpreting the data, so to enourage all the girls that didn't read this to get on cam, take a moment to sign-in whenever you are around.
Thanks
Dating Dancers – Another Perspective
I have been married to the same woman for 23 years. For nine of those years, she worked as a topless and nude dancer in Jacksonville, San Diego, Anchorage, and Las Vegas. We have even worked together in the same club when she worked in the club I owned. I have worked with thousands of dancers and models and have had close relations with more than a hundred. I feel that I am more than qualified to jump into this topic from several perspectives.
Dancers and all adult industry people for that matter are just like everyone else. There isn’t some type of personality quirk that makes a dancer uniquely adapted for her job. Strip Clubs are just like Taco Bell, they both have disgusting food and girls that get hit on! In fact, my wife got flirted with more at the Taco Bell drive through than she ever did in the strip clubs.
It is very narrow-minded to berate a girl in a strip club just because she’s "working" for tips. What the hell is the waitress in the restaurant doing? The waitress comes to your table, sometimes sits down next to you, takes your orders, lets you flirt with her, and expects a tip for her hospitality. A stripper in a club does the same routine, and even sometimes serves the drinks too. But because the stripper doesn’t have to keep running back to the kitchen for food, she gets extra time to sit and get to know you.
If a waitress wants to date a customer, it’s no big deal, so why is it so hard to believe that the stripper does the same thing? Strippers date and marry customers, period, just like girls at any other job. Most strippers enjoy talking and getting to know the guys, it’s definitely not always about money, but the girl needs to work too. She can’t pay her bills while she’s sitting with someone who isn’t tipping her, so she’s got to keep moving and in most cases, this is required by the club owners to provide for good service.
When a stripper breaks up with her boyfriend, or he breaks up with her, its easy to blame the club or the industry, but he’s bullshitting himself. Trying to say that he was lied to by a "professional stripper" who makes her living creating a fantasy world makes me wonder how the fuck he wipes his own ass! Unless you happened to fall out of the little yellow bus on the way to the Special Olympics, you know if you’re in a genuine relationship or not.
Now, having said all that… There are evil fucking gold-diggers out there, both in and out of the clubs. They spin tales and create fake emotional or even sexual bonds to get at a man’s money. In the clubs, these girls study the mannerisms of the genuine girls and then mimic their actions with their own sick twist. They are part of a sub-culture that uses the sexually charged strip club environment to peddle their wares. These girls see their club life as being separate from their life outside its doors. Fortunately, most high-end clubs fire these girls as fast as possible to prevent them from pissing off the regular customers.
Okay now that you know my position, it’s time to directly address Rafa’s and Katwoman’s recent blog articles.
Rafa said several things I find interesting:
‘The conversations I had with the dancer I was introduced to went well beyond the normal chit-chat’
‘I loved hearing the dirt on which girls had drama going on with other girls’
‘she was no longer "Fakename, the dancer" in my mind, she was "Real Woman, the woman"’
‘there were definite sparks of chemistry there’
I would say that Rafa had a genuine girl there. The fact that he got tired of her because she stood him up is beside the point and the fact that she was a stripper had nothing to do with it. She may have just sucked at relationships. But, you can bet the gold-digger girls will try to justify their own existence by saying "see told ya so", but don’t you believe it. Strippers are allowed to be irresponsible like everyone else and suffer being passed on for it.
Rafa asked if it is appropriate to give a dancer a rose in strip club, and if so under what circumstances in what capacity.
My suggestion is to pretend that you are giving a rose to a waitress at Outback Steak House. You can only approach her in the capacity of either boyfriend or restaurant patron. If you want to be a patron, then go in, sit down, give her the rose and let her happily serve you like every other customer as her job requires. If you choose to take the boyfriend route, go up to the bar, wait until she gets a break in the chaos, then give her the rose and expect her to have to go back to work at some point. In a strip club, you have to do the same thing, either come in and sit at a table and let her do her job for you, or go by the bar and wait for her to have a break in the action. Either way, you are a thoughtful guy for doing it.
Katwoman had many more interesting things to say in her first post on the subject, but since she replaced it with a "lite" version, I’ll work with it but I still have that other post in mind. 
I completely understand where Katwoman is coming from with her post. While I agree with the experiences she is conveying in her post, I also believe that they are from her own experiences and not indicative of the industry as a whole. Through her explanations of how difficult a relationship can be, I picked up on the following points:
‘we do care for many of them above and beyond "what is necessary to do our jobs"’
‘I have enough affection and caring to share’
‘Many dancers (at least in my club) will never date a guy that gets private dances (something I never understood)’
Katwoman’s post is almost entirely about the downside of dating a stripper, while at the same time, she’s married to a former customer, thus proving that guys can indeed have long term relationships with strippers. In Katwoman’s own words, she’s a caring person who has enough to share and goes beyond what is necessary to do her job. I believe that this is her true defining quality, and why I enjoy having her around.
The only problem I really see is that according to her comments on Rafa’s post, her article was going to address his question. I see from Rafa’s reply to her post that he does not feel that his question was answered and instead his judgment was called into question.
So, in conclusion, Rafa, do the rose man! Give it to her as a member, buy a dance so she can talk to you without the club owners thinking you are another annoying boyfriend hangaround and pursue a relationship with her like any other girl.
Katwoman, if your hubby wanted to bring you a rose in the club back when you were dating, how would you have liked to see him go about doing it?
It's a girl!