Second Answer "Spastic Hands"

Another VIP Faux Pas are the guys with Spastic Hands or are just rough in general. These gentlemen are also usually well intentioned (not always), but again miss the mark when dealing with the sexy girl of their choice. When you are rubbing your hands over a dancer (in the states/provinces where it is permitted), it should be done in a fluid motion. Jerky movements and hard pinching or grabbing is not erotic for most people.

The best thing is to start off gentle and then see what the reaction is if you try a little rougher. Remember most of the ladies are just the girl next door, not a porn star. Or wait until she indicates that she wants something a little more intense. As with the Golden Retriever one has to gauge the reactions to what you are doing.

Personally I have no qualms about telling a guy during a sexy striptease that he is too rough or to go slower, but many ladies just put up with it. On the flip side the ladies SHOULD let a guy know when they are doing something wrong and not just put up with it. You should be enjoying your job as much as the gentleman is enjoying your striptease!

If you are a guy that just thinks he should be allowed to handle the naked girl anyway he likes because he is paying, think again. This is the ultimate in rude and boorish behaviour. You are an adult, so behave like one!  If the lady doesn't protest, she should be. If you don't stop when asked, expect a nipple twisting of your own or a nicely placed knee or high heel to the groin....

This is the same with any verbal abuse one might dish out on this site to a cam girl. If you have a fetish or fantasy where this is what you want to do, getting permission from the sexy girl with which you are interested.Discussing limits is a MUST before proceeding.

One time I had a guy I will call the Biter. Self explanatory I think. Normally I don't like it when a guy just comes up to me and asks me for a dance. I like to "feel them out" so to speak before I get naked for someone. This usually gives me enough time to determine if a guy will be an ass in the VIP lounge or not. Well This one asked me right away, I asked if he would like to have a drink first, he said no I want you to dance now. So I went into the back and asked if he would like to chat for a bit, he said no I want you to dance now *sigh*.

I took my top off and leaned in and he immediately leaned forward and bit my left boob HARD (why do they always go for the bigger one?). So I proceeded to connect the heel of my hand with his forehead. He looked at me shocked and said "Hey you hit me!". I said "Well YOU bit me! DON'T bite!" He replied "Oh OK I 'm sorry, I'm sorry".

Well now I am gun shy (or teeth shy?) so during the second song, I turn my back to him, sit on his lap and lean back. He proceeds to bite me in the shoulder. I proceed to place my elbow in his kidneys. I turn and tell him if he bites me 1 more time we are done the dance immediately AND he will pay me an additional $50 on top of how ever many dances we have done so far. He apologizes again and I say "don't apologize, STOP biting".

So now I won't go anywhere near him because I am terrified of where his teeth may sink in next. I turn my back to him during the third song and bend over intending to watch him through my legs and I am not fast enough. You guessed it. He bites me in my ASS! My fist happens to be near my feet and by the time it connects with his face it has a lot of momentum with it. I politely tell him the dance is over and he owes me $110. I let him know if he has a problem with it he can talk to our 400 lb bouncer in the corner.

Well he paid me without protest and left. Believe it or not he was back 2 weeks later and asked me for another dance. I told him "Sure, but if you bite me once it is $50/song no matter how many songs we have done". He decided against it and had another dancer that night who had him thrown out of the bar.

Now this is an extreme case of the rough handling. lol just thought it was an interesting story to share with this topic!